“Ugh. My teen is so lazy.”
“Ugh. My teen is so lazy.”
They wake up at 11 a.m.
They lay around in bed.
They play endless video games.
They waste their time on social media.
It drives you nuts.
“Stop being so lazy and do something!”
I have a secret that may surprise you.
They are doing something!
They are counteracting academic pressure.
They are resting their body after exercising.
They are building back the thought, “I am worthy” after being rejected by a friend.
What you might label “lazy” is your teen’s version of a “time out” when they reset and refuel to tackle everyday challenges.
It’s their way of coping with the stress and overwhelm of their daily life.
So quiet the thought that creeps into your mind, “They won’t be successful if they do nothing all day.” It leaves you feeling irritated and you unintentionally push your child away.
Instead, notice how they are instinctually rebooting their energy to manage the pressures of academics, sports, and friends.
When they are not engaging in downtime, what are all the things they are doing?
They are trying their best at school.
They are navigating the complexities of friendships.
They are contributing to a team.
They are giving back to their community.
When you observe and share what they are doing, your teen hears:
I am worthy.
I am good enough.
I am responsible.
I am a contributor.
In my 6-month coaching program, I teach you 3 simple skills to have a better relationship with your teen:
How to stop the urge to make a judgmental comment.
How to ask better questions.
How to acknowledge what they are doing and validate their feelings.
If you want to motivate your child, try something different.
To get started, book a call HERE.
Your Coach,
Jeanine
