Why can’t my teen just follow the rules?!!
Nothing is more aggravating than when your teen routinely pushes the boundaries.
They don’t put their devices away when they are supposed to.
They don’t get their work done first.
They don’t respect their curfew.
You nag and tell them what they “need” to do.
You think, “I don’t want to play this game anymore.”
You are frustrated, angry, and exhausted.
The fact is it’s natural for teenagers to push the limits.
They are not trying to make you mad or be manipulative.
But it feels disrespectful when they don’t cooperate.
When your teen pushes the limits, here are 3 reasons why you experience conflict:
You aren’t clear about the boundary.
What time do devices get put away?
What do you consider speeding?
👉 If you aren’t clear about the boundary, how can your teen be?
You are clear about the boundary, but you often let it slide.
You don’t have the energy for an argument.
It’s easier to ignore the infraction.
👉 If you don’t talk about breaking the boundary, why would your teen follow it?
You address the infraction, and their response triggers you.
It feels awful when your teen spews their anger at you.
You don’t want to be the “bad guy.”
👉 If you react emotionally, you create distance between you.
Here’s how to get relief from this torturous cycle:
• Set a boundary you are willing to hold.
• Get comfortable with your teen’s discomfort.
• Communicate why the boundary is important to you.
• Ask them how the boundary might benefit them.
• Be willing to reconsider the boundary.
This reduces your frustration.
Your teen learns to honor boundaries.
They respect you and your decisions.
Your interactions are peaceful.
Boundaries are tricky.
It’s one of the topics we work on in my 6-month coaching program.
I walk you through the exact steps to take so you are no longer the enforcer.
Sound too good to be true? It’s not.
Book a complimentary call HERE and I will tell you how we do it.
Your Coach,
Jeanine
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