Why is it so difficult to set and maintain boundaries with our teens?

Why is it so difficult to set and maintain boundaries with our teens?

The short answer is it’s super uncomfortable when they freak out on us.

You know what I’m talking about, right?

They scream, “I hate you!”

Or, “That’s so unfair!”

Or, “You’re the only mom who would do this!”

Why can’t they just say, “Oh, mom. Thanks so much for looking out for me and keeping me safe. I know you want what’s best for me and that you love me.”

Hahaha. Like that would EVER happen!

So where does that leave us?

When you want to hold a boundary, you must learn to manage your uncomfortable feelings.

Slow down your flight or fight instinct.

Stop, pause, and take a deep breath.

It’s okay if you need a “mommy timeout.”

And then calmly follow through.

Even when it feels like you’re going to burst into tears.

Listen. I’ve been in your shoes, and I know it’s not easy.

When my son was 19, we agreed that he wouldn’t smoke at the house over Christmas break.

I told him if he broke our agreement he would have to leave.

I ended up having to take him to the airport when he did not keep his commitment.

I remember sobbing hysterically, not knowing if I did the right thing.

And flooded with guilt, fear, and worry.

Setting and maintaining boundaries is super tricky.

But I have a process that will help you.

Book a call with me to learn more.

What’s the downside?

♥️ Jeanine