Do you ever feel blindsided by your teen’s reaction?

When you are trying to be helpful, do you ever feel blindsided by your teen’s reaction?

They are upset about an interaction at school, and you say, “Don’t worry about it. Things will be better tomorrow.”

Your daughter is scared she won’t do well on a test, and you say, “I’m sure you will do well. You always do.”

Your son is disappointed that a girl doesn’t like him, and you say, “I guarantee there will be other girls who like you.”

Your teen explodes and says, “You’re wrong!” or, “You don’t get it!”
And they storm off.

Why does this seemingly benign conversation blow up?

Notice that your response to their concern is a logical one.

You are trying to change their thoughts. 

Because of your life experiences, you know this problem will pass.

And let’s be honest, it’s hard to watch your child feeling unhappy, frightened, or frustrated.

To avoid this discomfort, you feel compelled to tell them why their situation isn’t a big deal.

But to them, it feels like it’s the end of the world and you don’t understand.

What they really need is for you to help them cope with their strong emotions.

To reassure them that their feelings of fear, worry, and anxiety are normal.

To let them know that nothing is wrong with them.

Then they’ll see that you really understand what they are going through.

Their emotions will settle down before you know it. 

You will strengthen the bond between you.

Your coach,
Jeanine

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