How to Have the Courage to Follow Through with a Consequence

A few years ago, my son came home from college for a holiday break. In the middle of his visit, he broke an agreement we had. So I drove him to the airport and put him on a plane back to college. 

This was one of the most excruciating moments I’ve had as a parent.

I was terrified about the potential repercussions of my actions.

What if I made the situation worse?
What if he never spoke to me again?
What if that was the last time I would ever see him?

My fearful thoughts spun out of control.

As he walked away from me into the airport, I was distraught. 

Often when we face a tricky parenting situation, we know in our gut what we should do, but the “what if” scenarios grip us with fear. We want to know that the choice we make will result in a positive outcome.

Unfortunately, there are no guarantees. 

However, when you are willing to follow through with the consequence, you help create the vision you hold of your child. 

Here are productive steps you can take when you encounter a similar situation: 

➡️ State the facts. When you feel angry that your child broke an agreement, it is the worst time to engage. Get your emotions in check before delivering the agreed consequence. 

➡️ Tap into your heart. Your child is doing the very best they can at this moment. Breaking the agreement is typically a sign that they are struggling.  

➡️ Hold the vision of their future self. Tell them that you know they can handle whatever comes their way. Reassure them that you believe in them. 

➡️ Offer your support. Let them know you are always available to talk and that they are welcome home whenever they are ready to stick to the agreement. 

This is the fastest way to help your child course correct.
I know because I’ve lived it.
And now I get to experience the positive outcome of a happy, thriving, and independent son. 

This is possible for you, too.

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