The Extraordinary Impact of Unconditional Love

Your love for your child is greater than you ever thought possible. 

You imagine the amazing life they could have.
You see their potential to achieve financial independence and success. 
You envision them experiencing love, happiness, and fulfillment. 

These thoughts create unconditional love in your heart. 

But this extraordinary feeling is difficult to tap into when your child’s life is not going the way you imagined. As a result, you focus on what’s going wrong. 

You feel disappointed.
You feel irritated.
You are exhausted. 

A few years ago, my son’s life was not going in the direction I imagined. My mind spiraled with all the possible negative outcomes. I tracked his location on my phone and enforced punitive consequences. I let my fears consume me. He felt my lack of trust, disappointment, and judgment. 

When we let our thoughts create doomsday scenarios in our minds, we panic and pull the reins. 

When I grew up, my dad showered me with unconditional love, regardless of my behavior. The adoring expression in his eyes, his head nodding in amazement, and the validation when I demonstrated real value, were constants in my life. He consistently showed me how it felt to be truly seen. 

The result was a calm, peaceful relationship where I fortified my self-worth.
He continually believed in me, even when I didn’t believe in myself. 

How do you create this foundation of security with your children when things aren’t going well?  

You recognize the facts as circumstances—not a reflection of who they are. 

You lead with curiosity.
You lead with compassion.
You lead with non-judgment.

You have the power to do this by changing your thoughts.
You have the power to promote self-worth, connection, and belonging. 

Focus on their unique gifts and strengths.
Encourage them to express themselves and their beautiful individuality.
Love that person, just as they are.  

You have the ability to adapt your vision to meet your child where they need you.
Take the steps to manifest unconditional love.
You will have an extraordinary impact on your child’s life.

Wishing all the dads a very Happy Father’s Day! 

P.S. If you are at your wit’s end and would like a partner to help you create the relationship you want, let’s talk.

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“In all the world there is no heart for me like yours.
In all the world there is no love for you like mine.”
—Maya Angelou