There is one simple reason why there’s tension between you and your teen.

There is one simple reason why there’s tension between you and your teen. 

Communication.

You communicate the way that worked when your teen was young: telling them what they should do, what they need to do, and giving advice.

This makes perfect sense because that is what they needed from you then.

And, when you shared your wisdom, you were rewarded with respect, appreciation, and joy.

This positive feedback created communication habits that you continue to use today.

But now your child is a teen, so they need you to communicate differently if you want respect, appreciation, and joy.

Here is what they need from you now:

They need you to remain calm when their life feels chaotic.

They need you to listen to them.

They need you to understand what’s going on in their life.

They need you to help them feel like nothing is wrong with them.

They need you to assume the very best of them.

They need you to be confident that they can figure things out.

They need you to trust them.

Let’s be real.

This isn’t easy.

Their behavior sometimes scares you, worries you, or pisses you off.

When this happens, it’s perfectly natural to fall back on your old communication habits.

But if you want connection, cooperation, and calmness, it’s time to communicate in a new way.

I can teach you simple skills to make this happen and support you during this challenging time.

Book a call HERE to explore what that looks like.

♥️ Jeanine

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