They’re fine.

What is your primary thought when you watch your son back out of the driveway for the first time, or you say goodbye to your daughter at college?

Often my clients are worried that their child won’t be safe.

I tell them to think about a time when their son practiced caution.
I remind them to think about all the ways their daughter has handled challenging situations.

I have them look for evidence in the past that directs their thoughts to what their child can do.

It’s proof that they are resourceful enough to manage these types of scenarios successfully.

This exercise shifts your thinking from worry to belief. 

When you believe they will be okay, your heart stops thumping in your chest.
The pit in your stomach subsides.

You redirect your brain to focus on how resilient he is.
You think about how capable she is.

Notice that the situation has not changed—your son is still behind the wheel, your daughter is experiencing college life. 

However, you get to decide what you want to think about it.
By focusing on your child’s strengths, you will feel more at ease.
When you shift your thinking to “they’re fine,” you will feel better. 

When you feel better, it has a ripple effect on your life.
You have more energy for the things you want to do.
Your optimism impacts those around you.

As your son backs out of the driveway, instead of saying “be careful,” you say, “you’ve got this.”

As you say goodbye to your daughter at college, instead of warning her of dangers she might encounter, you say, “you are courageous and smart—enjoy this new adventure.”

By reframing your thoughts, you feel better and you act better. 

Think about it.

P.S. I can show you how to truly believe your child will be fine. Let’s talk. CLICK HERE.