Your child will always need love, connection, and a sense of belonging.

I just returned from parents’ weekend at my son’s college.  

I noticed that a handful of his friends attended the events without their parents, and I felt sorry for them. I imagined they felt left out, sad, and alone. 

However, when I shared this observation with my son, he said that while some were unhappy that their parents didn't attend, others were content and unaffected.

Why did some kids struggle and not others?

The kids who struggled shared that their parents didn’t acknowledge the special event or communicate remorse in not being able to attend.

The kids who were content shared that their parents really wanted to come but wouldn’t be able to because of extenuating circumstances.

The former resulted in the child feeling lonely.
The latter resulted in the child feeling loved.

Notice how much power and influence a simple conversation expressing how you feel can have on your child’s wellbeing.

As our children get older, it may seem like they don’t need us to acknowledge their growth and accomplishments.

It may seem like they don’t need to hear how proud we are and how much we love them.

But regardless of their ages, they will always need love, connection, and a sense of belonging to thrive.

I was reminded of this point again while watching a recent episode of Ted Lasso. 

The episode depicted the final soccer game of the season, in which two of the star soccer players dealt with their relationship with their fathers. 

Jamie’s father attends the big game but afterward communicates disappointment and cruelty.

In contrast, Sam’s dad does not attend but calls his son and emanates pride and respect. 

Jamie seems angry and hurt. 
Sam seems happy and confident. 

Making sure kids feel seen and loved can be done in person and from a far.

Whether you choose to visit your child in college, or if circumstances prohibit that from happening, know that expressing your love and pride makes your child feel whole, builds their confidence, and forms the connection for a long-lasting relationship.

Your Coach,
Jeanine

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