Be Kind to Yourself this Mother’s Day
Being a mom is a tough job. It’s a life-long commitment. You’re on call every day and every night. You can’t quit.
Imagine if someone offered you a job with those parameters. Would you say, “Sign me up!” or run the other way?
In spite of the immense demands parenting requires, most of us run full speed ahead. It’s arguably one of the most demanding and exhausting jobs in existence. Many of us are working too hard, not sleeping, and not taking care of ourselves.
And while everyone’s experiences are different, we all have one thing in common: we are super hard on ourselves.
We second-guess ourselves about everything from what we feed our kids to what advice we give, how we discipline and how we praise.
Many of us continuously find fault with our parenting decisions. When we show up every day doing the best we can, why are we self-critical?
The fact is, judging yourself drains your energy. Judging yourself decreases your confidence. Judging yourself limits you.
And it impacts your child. They know when you are angry, frustrated, or resentful—even when it’s not directed at them.
When you experience negative self-talk, destructive feelings arise and limit your parenting choices. It becomes nearly impossible to parent from a place of mental and emotional wellness.
From this day forward, let’s stop the judgment. Here are a few suggestions on how to treat yourself with kindness:
Catch yourself in negative self-talk. When you do, realize that this talk takes you down. It doesn’t serve you or anyone around you.
Think about all the wonderful things you did for your children today. Maybe you helped them with homework or played a board game together. If they were struggling, you listened to them and were compassionate and caring. And maybe you can take pride in waking up, taking them to school, and hugging them goodnight.
Turn your self-judgment into empathy, compassion, and kind thoughts. Be proud of yourself for putting so much love, time, and effort into raising and caring for a beautiful little human.
Give yourself some grace and know you are always doing the best you can.
Happy Mother’s Day to you! You are amazing!!! 🌺
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“The most profound thing we have to offer our children is our own healing.”
—Anne Lamott
