Don’t Ever Give Up on Your Teen

When my family sat around the Thanksgiving table and took turns sharing what we were most grateful for, I was struck by what my kids had to say.

My young adult children acknowledged the many difficult years of fighting and episodes of unkindness they experienced and then expressed gratitude for their newfound connection, friendship, and respect for each other. They embraced with warmth and love. It was a scene I could have never imagined a few short years ago.

The floodgates opened, and happy tears flowed! My heart was so full.

This is possible for you, too.

As I reflect on how their relationships have evolved, I noticed two factors that contributed to creating the close connection I longed for between my kids.

The first is time. As they’ve grown, they’ve naturally matured. They are happier with themselves and their lives, enabling them to be less judgmental and more compassionate. We have no control over how long this takes, so it requires patience.

The second factor, however, we can control: Never give up on your child. 

To be honest, there were moments when it just felt easier to give up. It takes grit, determination, and faith to keep showing up as the best parent you can be.

Calm your fears about how their current choices might impact them down the road.

Quiet your thoughts about how their behavior might reflect poorly on you.

Stop the judgmental comments when they aren’t acting the way you want.

Release your expectations of what you think they should be doing. 

And then, don’t give up on them.

When they perform poorly on a test, don’t give up on them.
When they neglect their hygiene, don’t give up on them. 
When they smoke or drink, don’t give up on them.
When they fight with their siblings, don’t give up on them.
When they are disrespectful, don’t give up on them.
When they don’t want to talk to you, don’t give up on them.

Tell yourself their behavior is not a problem; it’s part of their growth. Meet it with understanding, kindness, and compassion. 

Look beyond their current shortcomings.

Tell them all the amazing things you admire about them.

Encourage the behavior that will help them be the best version of themselves.

Remind yourself, it won’t always be this way.

This is just a moment in time.

Things will get better.

Your Coach,
Jeanine

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