Make a Fun Thanksgiving Inevitable
As anyone with teenagers knows, creating an enjoyable Thanksgiving doesn’t just happen.
Most teens would prefer to be doing almost anything else over hanging out with family.
They want to spend time with friends.
They think visiting relatives is boring.
They don’t want to participate in holiday festivities.
You might think, “Why does this have to be so hard?”
An argument ensues and you are disappointed and frustrated.
If you want a hassle-free holiday, strategize ahead of time while you are calm and clear-headed. Here is a process that works:
Know the limits of what you are willing to accept.
Listen to your teen’s desires without getting reactive.
Invite their solutions to the conversation so they don’t feel powerless.
Identify areas you are willing to compromise.
Together, find a middle path.
You might want to say something like, “I want you to participate with the family on Thanksgiving, but I’m willing to discuss your plans for Friday.”
Teens are good at derailing the conversation, so be prepared and resist getting distracted. It helps when you are mindful of your goal—a hassle-free holiday.
After a compromise is reached, look for opportunities to get them engaged in family time by asking, “What are some fun activities you can do with everyone?”
Here are a few ideas to have in your back pocket:
🌟 Share funny Tik-Tok videos with grandma.
🌟 Take their younger cousin to collect fall leaves.
🌟 Look for a recipe and cook it with you.
🌟 Teach their uncle how to play a video game.
🌟 Create a gratitude game with their sibling for everyone to play.
Your teen is more likely to buy into family time when they can share their particular interests. They’ll also appreciate your willingness to listen and compromise.
With this approach, you will enjoy a more peaceful holiday, creating memories, connecting, and having fun.
Wishing you a joyful Thanksgiving!
Your Coach,
Jeanine
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