How to Stop Being Annoyed by Your Son's Lack of Progress
Your son is not making real progress.
You know he can perform better in school.
You know he can contribute more to the football team.
You have this vision of all the things he can accomplish.
You are focused on what he needs to do to make that vision a reality.
If he just did what he was supposed to, this would be so easy.
You try to explain how he would be better off if he just studied more.
You tell him his football team is counting on him to train extra hours.
But he doesn’t do what you think he should be doing.
You are left frustrated.
Your relationship becomes strained.
Why is this happening?
You love him.
You care deeply for him.
You are committed to him.
But when you love him from a place where you need him to be different, you aren’t accepting him, accepting all his gifts, accepting all his challenges.
Instead of inviting him into a higher way of being, you beat him down.
The fact is, he is his own unique person.
He doesn’t think the way you do.
He doesn’t feel the way you do.
But you can accept him as he is.
You can see him and his imperfections.
You can give him time and grace.
You can allow him to have his experience without trying to change it.
It’s your job to manage your own thoughts about it.
When you do, you will save yourself time, energy, and heartache.
Your son is growing, learning, and evolving just the way he needs to.
Don’t try to control who he is to make him who you think he should be.
What is one thing you can do today to love your son just the way he is?
Because when he feels your love and acceptance, he will be more open to your guidance.
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“Accept things as they are and not as you would wish them to be. Then look ahead, not behind.”
—Rafael Nadal
