“Mom, you just don’t get it!”

“Mom, you just don’t get it!” 

Sound familiar? 

You think, “Yah, I do. I totally get it.”  
Your buttons are pushed.
You feel disrespected.

The truth is you probably do “get it.” 
Maybe better than they do. 
Your suggestion was probably helpful.

But unfortunately, it pushed them away.

They don’t want to listen to what you have to say.
And that is perfectly normal.
They are teenagers.

Teenagers want to feel in control.
They stop listening and sometimes get angry when they interpret your comment as controlling.

Of course, this isn’t your intention. 
You are trying to be helpful.

But teenagers want to solve their own problems.
And this is fantastic!

You want them to build their problem-solving muscles so they can succeed in the adult world.

How do you flip the conversation with your teen so they are engaged instead of dismissing? 

Tell them what they are feeling makes perfect sense.
👉 This normalizes their experience.

Ask them what they want to do.
👉 This empowers them to solve their own problems.

Give them a big hug and tell them, “I’m here if you want help.”
👉 This makes them feel less alone and communicates that you trust their decisions.

When you show restraint by not offering your solution, it’s a win-win: they feel better and solve their own problems and you feel better and deepen your connection!

With your brain and my parenting tools, imagine how different your life could be in 6 months.

Less conflict. More connection. More ease.

Let’s make this happen for you. 

Schedule a complimentary call HERE.

Your Coach,
Jeanine