“What is wrong with you?”

“Shut up!”
“You’re an idiot.”
“I hate you.”

When your teen screams nasty words at you, it’s disrespectful and unkind. 

Negative thoughts flood your mind and your anger surges.

You might yell back, “You can’t talk to me like that!” or “Go to your room until you can speak respectfully!”

You might retreat and think, “You are such a jerk.” or “I don’t even know what to do with you anymore.”

These negative thoughts and feelings escalate and your attention is consumed with everything your teen is doing wrong.

When all you focus on are problems, you can’t see a solution.

Instead, in the heat of the moment, take a breath (or two or three) and redirect your thoughts.

This isn’t easy because your feelings are hurt.

But you can tell yourself, “My teen is saying mean things right now because they are struggling. They are feeling out of control and trying to assert themselves.”

Rather than focusing on their rude behavior, you can think about what they are doing well like studying, exercising, or being a good friend. 

The moment you think a kind thought about your teen, your body floods with compassion.

This enables you to address their disrespectful behavior calmly, and later, start a conversation that gets to the root of the problem.

Approaching the situation with loving energy creates a dramatically different dynamic with a much better outcome. 

You can enjoy these years with your teen when you decide to look at things differently. I can teach you how to do that.

Book a complimentary call and I will share with you how my 6-month program will guarantee you a better relationship.

Imagine how different your life would be with the tools to solve conflicts quickly and calmly. 

Your teen builds responsibility and you create a deep connection that thrives through adulthood.

What are you waiting for? 

Your Coach,
Jeanine

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